The TRAP of Self-Development and Business Development.

The big TRAP of self-development-driven go-getters:

They realize what it is they WANT, then realize they can actually make it a REALITY….and then they want to DO IT ALL, NOW.

While this is great because it’ll cause accelerated growth (to be a better parent, have a thriving/soulful business, have an amazing relationship, have a 6-pack and be healthy, etc)..

…the TRAP is that our mouths tend to want to take it all in and expect to swallow every drop of opportunity WITHOUT CHOKING on it.

Make sense?

Then the real PAIN sets in as we realize that we haven’t achieved the goals we were so enthused about (usually in less than a year lol).

We start telling ourselves we suck. To make the dagger dig deeper, our peers and others who DON’T GET IT, start asking for results (usually the fruit of any work that shows up after a long period of time).

Now you’re a “failure”.

But Alas! There’s a better solution!

If you want to avoid any of this suffering and non-sense from proving to others that you are a success and really have deep, powerful, LIFE-LONG results of ANY mission, you MUST recognize that the results will be achieved ONE STEP AT A TIME.

Take BABY STEPS.

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It’s like this:

…when you watch a child learn to walk, he has to go through multiple stages to get the big outcome. He’s gotta learn to turn, crawl, sit, stand, cruise, and THEN…BOOM, he’s walking! Though to outsiders it appears he learned to walk right away, without constant, daily effort.

Imagine if babies gave up and called themselves lazy assholes after not successfully walking after making their first roll from back to belly.

Ridiculous, right?

In summary, I’ll throw in a good cliche, that has become an integral part of my personal journey and is more meaningful than ever right now:

ENJOY THE JOURNEY.

We are not robots. We are complex individuals. If we want growth, we must accept ourselves the way we are RIGHT NOW, that this situation is just a stage in the big picture. The journey is all we have right NOW, as the past is gone and the future doesn’t exist.

Another little thing to keep in mind…the Universe ALWAYS got your back.
With love,
Tiffany
PS: this took me 3 years to realize and FEEL the truth of, but the result will last for the next 50-60 years (or whenever I croke).

Self Growth With ‘Shrooms: The Good, the Bad, and the Fungli; Top 2 Reasons to AVOID Magic Mushrooms.

The reason I first started doing research on psychedelics, particularly magic mushrooms (psilocybin), was to see how I can unlock some kind of uncharted territory in my brain, after hearing about them from Leo Gura (youtube guy).

As a “self development junky”, (though I don’t particularly like that term because it implies some kind of unhealthy addiction), I was intrigued at the various research pieces done by psychologists, meditation gurus, and just those who were into self development from the past 5 decades.

Their results?

They all basically described psychedelics as an accelerator towards personal growth and CONSCIOUS AWAKENING.

The research was clear that psychedelics are a helpful tool to help people move forward in life by:

  • increasing self awareness
  • boosting creativity
  • gaining clarity
  • making life choices so much easier
  • finding peace and happiness

Sounds like all good stuff, right?

Now, when I started asking around about others’ experiences, I received a completely different picture of what ‘shrooms, (a.k.a. magic mushrooms and other psychedelics, like LSD) were all about and their experience with them (feel free to ask your dad).

Not surprisingly, of course, EVERYONE (and my mother) had an opinion, whether they’ve tried these plant medicines (as the Shamans call them) or not. As you’re reading this, you already likely have an opinion, especially if you’ve never tried it.

Thoughts like, “drugs are bad!”, “’shrooms are addictive!”, “it’s just an escape, no better than alcohol,” may be popping up in your mind right now.

Am I right?

Oh and one more, it’s ILLEGAL. “You can go to jail or get fired from your job!”

Oy, the Horror!

The people I’ve interviewed, all came at me with crude warnings and how crappy their experiences (and those of their friends) were while taking a trip on the magic mushrooms.

The following were all personal experiences and SIDE EFFECTS of the people I’ve spoken to:

  • non-stop diarrhea and vomiting for 6 hours straight
  • being chased by monsters
  • a friend’s blond hair was fire (her head was on fire, basically)
  • discomfort being around people and seeing others as giants
  • paranoia, anxiety, panic attacks
  • various unpleasant hallucinations

And these are the WARNINGS I got from people and google:

  • don’t look in the mirror!
  • don’t do it in a stranger’s house!
  • don’t do it in the woods!
  • don’t do it where there are windows or sharp objects!

All those warnings are FAKE NEWS.

Ironically, despite the positive SCIENTIFIC research on taking psilocybin (‘shrooms), the latter warnings and the friends’ experiences were a bit scary (particularly the seeing monsters and the diarrhea ones). I thought, “is this even worth looking into?”

And yet! I was curious: WHY SUCH a LARGE DIFFERENCE of OPINION?

As I did more research, it became crystal clear what factors bring such different experiences. The ONE factor that made ALL the difference in whether you’ll have a “good trip” or a “bad” one (as the professionals call it) is your INTENTION.

What the hell does your intention have to do with it?

Everything, damn it!

EVERYTHING.

There are 3 major reasons why people use magic mushrooms:

  1. To get away from reality, to get numb, to block the pain
  2. To have fun, because they’re bored
  3. To grow psychologically and spiritually

If one’s intention is reasons 1 and 2, they’ll have a bad trip 95% of the time, especially if it’s their first time.

Why?

Because they’re UNWILLING TO LOOK WITHIN themselves to figure things out, and the mushrooms do JUST THAT.

THEY HELP YOU LOOK WITHIN and FIND YOURSELF. So it’s no wonder this category of people flip out during the experience.

They aren’t ready!

If you fit into that 3rd intention, to grow yourself, you’ll likely have an AWESOME trip and gain a ton of insights which will improve your quality of life (if done the right way, with an experienced guide).

Make sense?

I shortly realized that the people who had the “bad trips” were HALF ASLEEP (on the consciousness/awareness scheme of things) and spent almost no time on personal development (school and college doesn’t count).

Then one day, a few months into my research, I knew I was READY.

How?

The voice in my head told me. Duh.

There are a few rules one must follow in order to get the most out of the experience with psychedelics. I won’t go into that here, but I followed them to the T (except the rule of not doing it with a stranger).

How was my experience? Beyond AMAZING.

It lasted about 6 hours, I had no paranoia, no anxiety, no scary hallucinations (just some teddy bears and bunnies when I closed my eyes!), and no abnormal bodily functions! Phew!

BUT, the experience wasn’t the best part, as the downloads (a.k.a. epiphanies and insights) continued to happen DAILY for the next 2-5 weeks!

I stopped caring about others’ opinions (detaching from toxic people), I was able to reconnect with my emotions and be open and vulnerable with myself and others (in a healthy way), I felt comfortable in my own skin, I was mindful and present in each moment, I could clearly set personal boundaries, and I knew EXACTLY which direction to take my business and my personal life to.

I made several life-changing decisions during that time by wholeheartedly following my intuition, and it was EASY (as pie).

In conclusion?

When you know what you WANT, and WHY you want it, all the noise and clutter just fall away.

So, would I recommend you dipping your toes into the hidden realms of your subconscious with the help of an awesome tool like magic mushrooms?

That’s a decision YOU need to make.

Now, do you want to play it safe or do you want to FLY?

PEACE.

5 Signs You’re In The Wrong Job and What To Do About It

(Warning: this article may cause some serious brain pain. If this isn’t for you, please proceed onto Youtube for some light cat videos)

5 Ways To Recognize You’re In The Wrong Job

One of the first and most important things to notice if you’re in the wrong job is if you say to yourself things like, “I hate my job”, or, “If he tells me one more time how to do my job…!”…these are the obvious signs.

Here are some other more subtle clues that it’s time for a change in jobs or careers:

  • you dread Mondays and eventually dread every workday
  • you find yourself constantly complaining (internally or out loud to others)
  • you avoid the boss or supervisor during your workday
  • you feel mentally exhausted by the end of the day                                                
  • there is no growth opportunity for you (even though you are itching to do                  more than your work title allows for)
  • you switch jobs a lot (almost routinely), as often as every 6 months to a year or 2
  • you have physical ailments, such as trouble falling asleep, digestive issues, or fatigue
  • you answer, “It pays the bills!” to the common question of, “How’s work?” (You have no excitement for the work that you do)

The 1st Step Towards Your IDEAL WORK

Before you start diving into any new job (or career) search, there is one fundamental step towards achieving your goals and dreams which must be completed. If this step is skipped, you may as well lay down and die (I mean give up).

So what is Step 1? It is to take responsibility for the situation you are in today.

Why is this CRUCIAL?

Because when we point the blame onto someone else, nothing gets resolved for you and the things that you can improve on will not be visible to you. 

As you read this, you may start resisting and coming up with thoughts in your head as to why you have a mismatched job (or lack of satisfaction or money) and why it isn’t your fault.

That’s EXCELLENT!

That’s your Ego showing its face. Your Ego is just defending its status quo, but it is by no means necessary for you to take it to heart. Let it go. Your Ego is not YOU.

Now, say it with me:

“Hello, my name is________, and the reason I am in this situation today is because of ME.”

The sooner we accept the above for any situation which brings us pain, the sooner we can amend it.

The 2nd Step Towards Your IDEAL WORK: Techniques

The next step would be to identify what you want out of a job. If you’re not sure, think about the logistics of your ideal job and how it would better fit into your life. What hours would you like to work and in which location.

If you are still having trouble coming up with a great job scenario (in addition to the hours and location), take everything you hate about your current job and create opposites. For example, say, you hate being micromanaged. What that really means is that at your next job you’d prefer to have more autonomy. Continue this technique until you have a somewhat complete list of your “wants”.

The 3rd Step Towards Your IDEAL WORK

Once you know what you want out of a job, or a business, clearly written out, write out your goals. Not only your career goals, but, “start with the end in mind” (as Stephen Covey shares in his classic book The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People).

Here are some questions to help you identify your goals:

  • Where would you like to be in 5, 10, and 20 years?
  • Where would you live?
  • What car would you drive?
  • What kind of relationships would you have with your spouse/kids/family/friends/coworkers?
  • How much money would you want in your bank account?
  • What’s your income?
  • What other hobbies would you have leisure time to enjoy?
  • What would you like to become a master of?

Those may be tough questions to answer, especially for those of us who constantly feel rushed and overwhelmed with work and home life. When we live in this “urgency” state of mind, we tend to forget to stop and look ahead. If recognize this, the fact that you most likely are in this “urgency space”, you can now give yourself the space to breathe for a moment and do this kind of work, as mentioned above, and really make a difference in your life. 

Once you have your vision for 20 or so years from today, you can start to go backwards to form smaller, shorter term goals which will eventually lead up to the bigger ones, like a step by step guide. Some people find it helpful to build the goals bottom up, in reverse, so it depends what feels better to you.

You can make this process of “goal identification” as detailed or as brief as you like, since the main action for you to take now is to simply START. Start small and add on as you go, if that’s more your style. Or if you’re an achiever and go-getter, feel free to dive right in, just be tactical about it. 

Step 4, START!

Now that you have some more clarity of what you want and where you’d like to be (in terms of career), at least more than before, decide what kind of work you’d like to do.

Do you want to…:

  • Change departments
  • Change jobs
  • Change a career altogether, or  
  • Start a side business to supplement your job and give yourself a creative outlet?

Whatever you decide, remember that being in consistent ACTION is key for attaining the results you want. What will serve you best is if you set a time aside, every single week, maybe a few times a week, and conduct your job search for an allotted amount of time. Applying for jobs and then eventually going on interviews is all about practice. The more you do, the easier it gets, and the more clarity you’ll have where you need to be working. 

If you decide to apply to new jobs, you can see what’s out there, what sounds attractive to you, and go with your gut. If you want to apply to a job that sounds right but you don’t have much experience in that field, ask yourself what attracted you to that job description in the first place?

Bumps In The Road Are To Be Expected

It’s also worth mentioning that whatever may be causing you to stop in your tracks anywhere in this process,  it can be dealt with. When you start paying attention to what your thoughts or beliefs are regarding whether you’re good enough or have enough value to add to a company, these are the exact same beliefs that kept you in a dead-end job all these years. Notice what you believe about yourself, your capabilities, how much do you care about upholding your self-image, and so on.

Now realize this: you have come this far in life for a reason. You were obviously good at something, you not only survived but likely have some positive outcomes to show for it. Use this to get to the center of your authentic self. Not to sound preachy, but I truly believe this: each one of you have a set of personal qualities and strengths unique to ONLY YOU.

How to identify your strengths and align yourself with the right employer or realize you would do well to start your own business:

  • Think of what you can do that comes easily for you but not for others
  • What are you best at in your current job?
  • What brings you excitement?
  • What would you not mind staying up late for to complete?
  • What topic would you gladly talk someone’s ear off?

That line of questioning would lead you closer to your ideal work environment or role.

What if all your past work experience is not at all related to your ideal job situation? This is definitely a possibility, and it is the reason why it’s so important to start looking at job postings regularly to see what is out there (as well as talking to other people about it). Eventually, what will happen is that you will start noticing that you are attracted to certain types of positions. Look deeper into them and identify what about those jobs interest you, specifically.

Chances are, if you’re passionate about the work you want to do (and have a good work ethic), you will make a great asset to that company, no matter what your past experience is. The right employer for you will have the same vision or mission as you (most of them put it on the job post). Find those employers that are aligned with you.

Keep in mind, however, that this is a filtering process.

If you go into the job search with the mindset of, “I have to prove myself and ace the interview,” you will likely get nowhere but only achieve a change of scenery for a short period (by getting the same job in a different company). The goal here is to show the real you, your passionate side and seek out where your “tribe” is.

It’s like pretending to be perfect on a 1st date or just before you get married. Sure, it’s fine at first, but the person you pretend to be will attract the wrong mate, who will forever have expectations of this “ideal” you, causing disappointment and pain in the future.

If You Are Still Clueless About Your Passion or Purpose 

If you still have no idea what kind of job you want to be doing or you have too many ideas, you may be unclear about your life purpose. We all have one, but we don’t all recognize it (hence the many grumpy people in this abundant land of America).

On my journey to finding my passion and purpose, I have found the following to be useful, either for myself or for others, in gaining clarity of where they would fit in best:

  • work with a coach or a mentor
  • sign up for the Life Purpose Course by Leo Gura at Actualized.org
  • sign up for a Karmic Map Reading from a spiritual guide (for example, Ihar Cherskiy from NYC at EnergyExpert.online)
  • complete a Behavior and Motivators assessment (usually from a coach or buy it yourself).

Now, I don’t have contracts of any sort with the above-mentioned companies, these are just some suggestions, but I have seen people I know personally gain significant traction and start on a new career path using the methods I just mentioned (myself included). You can do this on your own as well, it just may take a bit longer.

There are likely multiple other options out there for helping you figure out your path to your ideal career so remember to take all advice with a grain of salt and do what feels right the most. The more mentors you can have, whether it be a coach, an author, or a podcastor, your truth will be somewhere in between all of them, as Leo Gura calls it, the Triangulated Truth. The recommended number of mentors to have is 3, so you don’t experience information overload.

Career Success on the grand scheme of things

Unfortunately, I could not keep this article as short as I planned and I thank you for staying with me this far. But I hope this was valuable to you and that I was able to communicate that your less than ideal work situation right now is not a surface issue that could be fixed with a simple distraction, or “band-aid,” like changing jobs on a regular basis. There is tremendous hope of great improvement, if you take the action.

The most important points, if you take anything away from this article, are these:

  • Take responsibility for your current miserable situation
  • Create goals
  • Create the ideal job scenario, your “wants”, opposites of “don’t wants” in a job
  • Identify your life purpose
  • Take ACTION, seek out your ideal job

Like all things in life worth doing, this may take some time to figure out and experiment with, but it will take you to a place where you can feel free, fulfilled, purposeful, and authentically YOURSELF, for the rest of your life.

Love,

Tiffany Olson

 

The Multiple Personality Disorder We ALL Have.

It’s Monday afternoon as I stroll into work all refreshed from the weekend, and the feeling of giddiness, excitedness, and servant takes over me.

I’m on a coaching call the next day, being one with the person on the other line, being their rock, their guide and bold best friend at the same time. I am no longer a servant, but a leader with creative skill, on a mission.

I’m in front of my spouse, presenting my new idea, super excited, just to get “shut down”, and now a passionate and a bit angry debater, fighting to prove my point and how right I am.

If you’ve ever seen the movie “Identity”, about multiple personality disorder, it’s like that. If I’m with a certain family member or group, I tend to act accordingly to their original perception of me.

It’s like being in a very subtle prison of our own choosing.

Afraid to possibly disappoint the other of their expectations of us? Is that it? Or even if we have tremendously changed, they will still speak to us as if we are our old self. How infuriating! Stop trying to fit me in your mold!

Depending on our environment and emotional state, we put on a mask. How we feel about ourselves may change with each environment because we are so vulnerable to others’ opinions of us, unless of course you’ve done years of work on yourself and are one of the very few to overcome this major challenge in life.

Sam Harris, author of “Waking Up”, calls this our social self. Who we are and how we act to be in a moment depends on how we think our surrounding people think of us. When we are in presence of family, no matter how much we’ve changed or grown, they still treat us as our old selves and somehow we start to feel like an older version of ourself in that moment. At the same time, you can feel the discomfort of somehow being forced to feel this way and feel its non-integrity and inauthenticity.

Then the question comes up, but how do I protect myself from slipping back into my old self? The insecure, fearful, people-pleasing self? I don’t have the right answer I’m sure, but as far as I understand it as of now, noticing how the other person views us may affect our mindset and sense of self.

Put it this way, if we feel they mistake us for a weaker or an incorrect version of who we want ourselves to be, just notice it.

Usually, even if you’ve grown drastically, emotionally, spiritually, physically, they may choose to ignore it on purpose in order to protect their own ego and avoid looking into their own stagnant, insecure self.

My point, stop giving a crap what others think. Because you are whole, you are working on yourself constantly!

Everyone’s journey is different and it makes no sense to compare, even though it’s the EMOTIONALLY EASY thing to do. So stop comparing. Stop trying to prove yourself to anyone. Focus on you and your growth and your purpose in life.

Those who will continuously try to push you back into that old mold of yourself, sorry to say, they don’t belong next to you. I would suggest distancing yourself. If you’re not ready for that yet, then go ahead and notice it for yourself. Just see the effect they have on you. I guarantee you won’t like the person you pretend to be, as if going in reverse, when they’re around and hopefully you’ll reach an, “I’ve had enough of this sh*t!” moment and start to value yourself more than they are even capable of.

It will also do no harm for you to understand that they are suffering in their life. If we are angry with them, we take on the victim mode and blame them for our lack of progress. That’s counterproductive. LOVE YOURSELF to give yourself space to grow and follow your passion and your purpose. Those aligned with your mission will show up, I guarantee it.

I type this as if I am speaking to you. But I am really speaking to myself, fully committed to engraining this new epiphany of mine and making sure I REMEMBER to just NOTICE the next time I feel I have to act less than what I am and what I’ve worked so hard to become, a better, lighter, ever-changing ME.

Peace.

Tiffany.

Luxury or Necessity? Money Psychology.

As I sit down to write, suddenly all kinds of things come to my attention: that pile of mail in the corner, the dishes in the sink, the pile of unsorted winter and summer shoes, etc. At one time, about two years, whatever mess was made by our toddler son at the time, was a lovely opportunity to practice not letting the external circumstance cause anxiety. Woosaaaaaa.

And I’m here to say, I’m anxiety-free! But with that freedom come certain….other responsibilities. Now that the kids are a little older, after two decluttering purges, the mess, in the form of random toys, dishes and other non-sense, is still there, but I have now grown past it, hence my conundrum.

CLUTTER=OVERWHELM.

So what gives? After doing hours of research on minimalism, how to declutter, how to only keep things that serve you and so on, it is still not enough. I would guess, but I can’t swear by this, that if  this was my case two years ago, I’d be happy to clean things up constantly, do some more research on how to be more organized and dive head-first into this project. At this point though, I cannot justify such a project any longer. My business and the kids whining and desperate for attention seem to be more important.

So what is the tipping point of when we start recognizing that our time is valuable? Almost like the “time is money” phrase, it must be used on important things, things for either securing our future, our kids’ future, our health, personal development, and our career/business. When is it no longer just a “luxury” to hire a cleaning service, a home organizer, prepped meals or an assistant? Because if we are to be growing, certain things will either hold us back, like me spending over an hour each day cleaning and tidying instead of working on my business or spending time with my kids or husband or just freaking relaxing!? Or that business owner doing his or her own bookkeeping daily and missing dinner with the family?

These “luxury” services or items are what would actually help us grow, that is of course if we are able to give up that control. As a recovering control freak, I can tell you that the time I now spend cleaning up is no longer enjoyable and instead I keep thinking of something more productive or meaningful to do.

Say you have a project to complete or follow up calls to make or to apply to new jobs weekly till you find the right one, which is more important, cleaning and tidying 5-10 hours per week or spending it on the above? Because the mess may be never-ending, but life is still passing with each minute.

The little voice that used to say, “such services are a waste of money, if you can do it yourself, don’t be lazy and do it” is still there, but I am determined to shush it. SHUSH!

I AM NO YOGI.

I wanted so badly to be at peace with the home environment, whether it’s neat or not. But, I must admit, hesitantly, that I am no yogi or zen master. I am simply not there yet (but please check back in five years’ time). So while the mess or clutter of everyday is not going anywhere and I value other things instead of cleaning up all the time now, for hours at a time, I’m going to outsource. Whether I decide to hire a cleaning service or an organizer, I know that the professional will help me achieve total home organization much faster than I would, and it’s already been two years with little success.

New plan: outsource to a service for that which I suck at, free up time and relieve overwhelm, get more done for work and get to spend more time with the kids and the family. So simple. Right? Changing our beliefs can either be slow and painful or instantaneous (I prefer the painful route).

MONEY PSYCHOLOGY.

The choice is ours: be efficient or be stingy. It also comes to light that spending on things we aren’t used to is very difficult, unless we change the way we feel about money. For many of us in debt or just coming out of it or coming from poor or stingy families, it can hardly be justified to spend money on more than necessities. Then again, a tv or cable isn’t a necessity, yet most of us have it. If you take anything away from this post, it should be this: when making a decision to spend on an item or a service, ask yourself, what is it costing me? And what would it cost me NOT to spend on this? We usually don’t see the value being lost.

News flash: money is useless. it’s just a piece of paper (or electronic wire transfer, whatever). It doesn’t give you love, it has no feelings and it doesn’t keep you warm at night. MONEY IS A TOOL, a vehicle to help you get what you really want and value, whatever will make your life easier or more fulfilling. Those who realize this will suddenly see many new possibilities available to them that weren’t there before.

Live simply, live fully.

Peace and Love,

Tiffany Olson

 

Why I failed.

Failure. The word itself is a negative representation of an event that we all must face at one time or another. For many of us, multiple times. Ironically, it’s a blessing and a tool, if used correctly.

I failed. I failed my family and most importantly, myself. Did I have this huge breakdown, throwing away everything I’ve worked so hard for in the past year? Not exactly. It was more of a slow and painful death-like existence.

How did I fail: I set out, fully determined, to develop a well-functioning coaching business over a year ago. As goes with all successful entrepreneurs, I was in white hot action! Super excited, giddy and jumping out of bed every morning. What a feeling! Bet you most people forgot what that even feels like in relation to their job. But I found it!

I was quite good as a coach, with some  natural abilities already in my arsenal and started learning more and more, applying it at the same time. Sure, I didn’t have the professional structure yet, but I was loving every minute of it, and seeing my clients’ life-changing, tangible results.

Then, about 7 months in, I started hesitating. Yes, I had great results from over a 100 single sessions and had a few paying clients, but that wasn’t enough.

Here’s the thing that happens to 99% of new entrepreneurs. They seek support from their loved ones, just in the form of optimism and emotional encouragement. Do they get it? Heck no! Rarely! And I was no different.

Now, I am in no way blaming the well-meaning peers and family members. Intellectually, I completely understand that they want us to be whole and don’t want to see us get hurt. But emotionally, it’s still a hard pill to swallow.

It’s also so sneaky. I didn’t realize what was happening till recently. Oh and to add to this, the lovely exercise of cold calling and facing multiple “rejections” didn’t help the situation.

Now, I won’t reveal who this person is that I apparently had such an attachment to, hint: we live together and it’s a male between 10 and 36 yrs old.

This attachment to my wish for support was so strong and yet invisible to me, I started preoccupying myself with anything that wouldn’t make any headway in my business and simultaneously sabotaging the things that were actually working for me. I stopped writing, I stopped calling, I stopped networking. My only saving grace were those handful of clients. They were the ones keeping me in the game, who I would run through a brick wall for no matter what.

But ultimately, I failed. Why? Because of that little voice, the one we always have, that kept saying, “you better stay low, no need to upset the peaceful household again with the changes.”

Where does that voice come from? Where do they all come from? Our beliefs. Those deep-seeded, long-time-ago-created beliefs. Those that were instilled in us, by us, from our perception of the world, the media, our parents, and our interpretation of it all.

Limiting Beliefs, more accurately, are those that prevent us from moving forward in life. Those are the ones that speak to us when we have an opportunity for growth. “I am not enough, why would I even try that”, “if I leave my job I will lose myself and my identity”, “if I don’t cook or clean all day, my family won’t love me”, and so on.

Seems kind of simple and ridiculous, right?

Well…the human brain can be pretty simple and ridiculous.

I say that with love and encouragement. Because once we realize how simply our brains operate, we can as simply change ourselves for the better. Although, a 2nd perspective is most helpful.

Now, back to my point; I failed!! Yes!!! I have reached that low point that every entrepreneur dreads but should be excited about! Tiffany, now you sound ridiculous, you may think. Yes, I read minds, too.

Imagine hearing the following daily:

… “If I go full force in business, he won’t love me and I will cause my family to fall apart.”

That was my little voice, that I subconsciously listened to for the past 7 months. It was painful to know this on a semi-conscious level but feel helpless in getting past it and finding a solution. It was even more painful to look at and admit those words to myself and out loud to my peers, the kind of pain that most people would avoid for decades and keep going in circles in their comfort zone, stagnant and half-dead inside.

If I would allow this belief to live in me, I would end up serving its evil master, the LIE of it. I would be in a self-made prison.

Like Plato’s Allegory of the Cave, where there are prisoners chained in a cave, and they see shadows , those cast from the sun by the passers-by outside. But the prisoners don’t know where the shadows come from, so they give shadows names and consider them to be reality. Miraculously, some prisoners break free and see the sun and the people outside, but they are too afraid to move out because of fear of the uncertainty of the outcome.

It’s like a gravitational pull of the old, comfortable cave was sucking them back in.

That’s where I was. Caught, or rather self-placed, in that spot, between truth and fulfillment and held back by that fear, that belief I mentioned above.

As I wrote the above, I’m happy to say I feel nothing. Which means it has loosened its hold on me once it was discovered (and I have the help of multiple coaches working with me). Once these beliefs are discovered, and I’m sure I will discover more as I do the hard work of it, they cease to have power over us. As I now experience.

A secret is only powerful and crippling as long as it’s kept a secret.

So I failed. So what. This is awesome! Maybe renaming the event would be more appropriate, discovering the sun’s existence and having the courage to step out of that cave, that once-comfortable and no longer fulfilling cave of a home. Ok, I can’t come up with a different name for it, but maybe you could. Make it your own. Embrace it. Learn from it. And most importantly, SHARE it.

I am power. I am enough. I can.

With love,

Tiffany Olson

Life Is Like A Box Of Chocolates, Or Is It? What Is Most Important To Focus On

Stuck, or on a journey, between self-development, reaching spiritual awakening, realizing self-awareness, and being physically productive.

Being productive, to most people, means being disciplined, organized, getting tasks done, having a well run, clean home, etc. For me, that meant giving power to material wants or tangible and intangible accomplishments, such as paying off debt, getting the kids to sleep well, organizing the week by tasks in time blocks, battle procrastination and writing this blog consistently, which till now I haven’t mastered.

But before starting on this journey, the journey of being an effective and proactive human/mom/wife/nurse/coach/awesome-listener-to-problems-of-others, I was on a lovely and peaceful path to pure, super focused self-development, in the spiritual sense. I was immersed in books, videos, classes, and audios about meditation, Buddhism, the minimalist philosophy, being free from emotional suffering, and mastering the conscious mind. I successfully rid my life of anxiety, became more empathetic, curious, compassionate and more loving to my kids (a.k.a. not letting myself become angry as much) and overall becoming less emotionally-reactive. HA! I bet you not many ladies can push through those PMS emotions without as much as a “scratch” on the kids or the poor husband!

Man, was I thrown for a loop when taking on a totally different career path. A new career where I was fundamentally good at but still totally a beginner with a lot to learn. Suddenly finding myself vulnerable and reactive all over again.

This is how I can best explain it, let’s go on a trip together: imagine, you’re on a long train ride, from NY to California (if those still exist). When you board the train, you get comfortable in your cabin for the first two days. On the third day, you may get bored and decide to explore. You spend time and effort to go through each cabin, talking to different people, seeing the train and the view outside from different perspectives. Though you enter a different cabin daily, you’re still somewhat comfortable, and also quite excited about your daily discoveries. One day, mid-journey, the train gets derailed and you are somehow forced to travel to your destination via a different mode of transportation, say, a helicopter. Only thing is, you have to be the co-pilot, because you were the only other person brave enough to get in it, eager to reach your destination quickly, besides the pilot, when the others were too afraid to go in the air and chose to either go back home or walk or hitch a ride the rest of the way to California.

Now you are no longer comfortable. You can no longer remember to enjoy the damn journey, because so much depends solely on you! Oh, and the pilot, that’s actually a projection of you, the one who thought they can do anything they set their mind to. So there you go. You’re a novice pilot, flying alone. Sure you have a map and the radio for navigation help, but that’s not enough to make you feel comfortable and secure.

If that didn’t confuse you by now, you must be familiar with this feeling.

The feeling of living your life, having most things figured out, and then being thrown for a loop, or rather jumping into a “loop”, and the peaceful, self-assured person you thought yourself to be is nowhere to be seen. Now, it feels as though you have to start from scratch. 

So which journey is more “correct”? The one to enlightenment, being present, discovering self-awareness, non-duality, and so on, or the one of establishing yourself a worthy being of this life, making the most of it by being super effective and helpful to others on this earth, truly making a difference?

To be honest, I don’t have a “good” answer for you. Both of those journeys seem to be equally important, in totally different ways. Or am I wrong? Could they be one and same? Where would be the point that they meet? Or maybe a better question would be, what am I chasing exactly?

What are we all chasing that makes us feel inadequate at the moment, that we feel will complete us once it’s in our possession? What would we have to believe in order to feel fulfilled? Is it status, income, a spouse, kids or is it spiritual and self-development? Could it be both? How can one person be able to take care of all those areas simultaneously?

This is what I’ve come up with, and I had help from my mentors: whatever the reason was that started my second journey, the new career path, was it a true need or was it a pure reaction to a current unpleasant situation (I was annoyed at my job, fuming to be exact, of being controlled by someone else to such a degree that I had constant anxiety). So if the case is that I was just reacting, and I don’t have to base my life on emotional reactions, because they’re temporary, does that mean I don’t actually NEED this new career path?

Don’t need it?! What do you mean you don’t need it?! You just spent over a year working your butt off on this! …is what I was telling myself during this realization.

Then, a moment of clarity. After an agony/confusion-filled afternoon with this realization, it came to me. I don’t need it, but am I good at it? Does it fulfill a need I have? A need of feeling significant and making a difference? Actually, this was with the help of my mentor as well, or my brain would explore before I came up with it myself.

Back to my point, I don’t need this new career, I don’t need more money, BUT, I could definitely benefit from a more flexible job, or business, where I am following my own vision, using by unique skills and talents, and making a difference in the world, by being a catalyst for long-term changes in people’s lives.

Freedom! This is what freedom must feel like! No more guilt of “succeeding” in a new career, in totally new territory, in a “timely” and “perfect” manner. Sure, sometimes the guilt lingers and I have to acknowledge that ancient survival state of mind and wave it goodbye, I don’t have to believe it.

So can we develop spiritually and physically at the same time? Yes!! And I realize, finally, that no-one is rushing me, no-one was pushing me to be an expert right from day one, except myself. Matter of fact, I can take all the time I want, at least reasonably, to study and experiment with my new field of work. Because if I die tomorrow, all I have to know to be content is that I had a loving relationship with my kids, my husband, and that I was moving forward in life, no matter how “slow” I thought it was.

As I spill out these thoughts to you all, if you are still reading this, I’d like to share a paraphrased excerpt from Stephen Covey’s The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People: imagine (seriously, take a deep breath close your eyes, and really picture this. It could be the MOST IMPORTANT thing you can do in your life right now to gain some clarity): you’re going to a funeral. You don’t who’s it is, but it is someone close to you. As you enter the funeral home, you pass by all your close family members and friends. The air feels heavy and filled with sadness at the loss of your shared loved one. You enter the wake room where the body is displayed. As you walk up to the open casket, you come face to face with… yourself. Shhhhhh. Let that image sit for a moment. Shhh, I said!

You’re gone from this earth. Now, there will be 5 speakers, a close friend, a child, an intimate partner, a parent, and a co-worker or client.

What would you want each one of them to say? What kind of parent/child/co-worker/business provider would you have wanted them to remember you as? What kind of attributes would you have wanted to be remembered as having? What kind of legacy or inspiration would you want to leave behind?

After I did this exercise, it was clear to me, that my family came first, then the kind of person I was being came second. Then I realized that none of that is possible without having good health. So health came first. Whether I was successful in business in the first year was not relevant anymore. In truth, this is my life, and what I deem important will come first.

This is my journey. It is unique to only me. And on this journey are only MY results and MY rules, (Jeffrey T. Sooey’s inspirational words that I finally understand). If I decide to land my helicopter on a mountain top and study the land below for a time or to take a nap, I will do that. The voice on the radio cannot actually control me or even has the right to control me, whether that voice is my own guilt or others’ expectations and frivolous advice.

I give you permission to be yourself, make up your own rules, and take the road YOU want to and were meant to travel. The rest is just background noise to be taken lightly.

 

Love,

Tiffany Olson

Home, Sweet Home; Finding Serenity in the Chaos.

It’s the first day of school for our son at pre-K. The weather outside is beautiful, he’s got his cute little minion backpack strapped to his back and we are all excited to start this new journey. We, as in me, my 3 year old son and his 2 year old sister.

We’re a couple of minutes late. No big deal! We’ll get the hang of it by next week, I’m sure. Well, it’s 6 weeks in, I look at the sign-in sheet and everyone else, of the 15 students, was signed in at 8am on the dot. Am I the only one coming in between 15 to 40 minutes late every single day?! For the past 6 weeks straight?!

Luckily for me, I’ve been committed to not care what others think of me, which helped to open an opportunity to face the real issue. The issue of why we are never on time. This issue must be so big that it has prevented me, a somewhat organized person, to be completely off the mark and off the timeline on a daily basis. What’s this issue, you ask? Hell if I know!

But, for the past 3 months, I have taken a reprieve from my side business, at least from the marketing aspect of it, and decided to focus on my family life, on our “family system”. Face what’s working well, what’s not working and what can we do to fix it.

Here’s what I’ve observed, the things or routines that caused chaos almost every day. That feeling of overwhelm just in the first 10 minutes of the day constantly present.

(Side note: my son recently requested to be woken up with some patting on his back for a calm awakening. HA! May I make such a request of my alarm clock or one of my dogs?)

Here’s what I observed: Complete Chaos!

Bedtime routine: out of wack. There’s a presumed order of events during the kids’ bedtime routine but the steps are not sequential in order, which causes the kids to feel no routine is present at all and they feel freedom to run around during this time.  Nightly screaming, whining and crying, either from the kids or either parent, is a common occurrence.

Morning routine: husband is out the door before the kids awake. Kids don’t wake up at the same time, one wakes up randomly between 5am and 8am, the other one 7am-9am. My personal morning ritual, which was what kept me sane before, is out the window because it kept getting interrupted, so I gave it up in frustration.

Remember, I’m not complaining here, these are just the facts. Here are some positives, for some variety: everyone is physically healthy, we stick to our budget and our dogs get walked regularly since we started renting a home without a readily accessible yard. SO there, this post isn’t all negative.

Back to bedtime routine: as the kids scatter around the house like wild ants, on cocaine, I try to clean up after dinner, feed the dogs, tidy up (lol-well that’s just a bad idea, but at the moment there’s no time for intelligent thinking), and try to catch each kid and put their pajamas on, all the while restraining the urge to yell, or worse, slap.

The oldest kid goes to bed by 11pm, by which time I’m exhausted, have no more energy for tidying up or giving attention to my husband. He, of course, proceeds to take this personally, adding more drama to the plate. But that’s a different discussion.

In between the chaotic times at home, I’m at my part time nursing job, nice and calm, possibly feeling a bit guilty about not having any enjoyment or bonding time with my own kids.

I realize I keep finding myself in the mom/boss mode. You know the one, “do this”, “do that”, “don’t hit your sister”, “get off the dog”, and so on. This, in retrospect, is not the ideal state I’d like to find myself in more than 30% of the time. What happened to the playful mom or the curious/tell me about your day mom? Where’s this bonding I used to dream of?

So I set some new goals:

1. Peaceful time at home (and also I’d like a unicorn, but hey, a girl can dream and make it a goal).

2. Bedtime/lights out for kids by 8pm. Just kidding [myself]. 9pm it is!

3. Out of the house by 7:30am.

4. In bed myself by 10pm.

5. Enjoy intimate time with the husband at least weekly.

Solutions, a work in progress:

The following are the steps I’ve taken to achieve the above goals. I’ll list which goals were met at the end:

-Sleep training for the kids, read the book The Sleep Easy Solution.

-Dedicate 2 days a week, 1.5hours each, to laundry, Mondays and Wednesdays. No excuses.

-Fill up gas in the car on Sundays, so it’s not an emergency every single, damn time.

-make the bed every morning, to suggest a sense of control and serenity at the start of the day.

-Dedicate daily bonding time with each child individually, 10 minutes each, to prevent the need for seeking attention with whining and fighting (thanks to Amy Mcready and her awesome parenting tips).

-Schedule a weekly date night/lunch with husband, because the marriage has definitely been put on the back-burner. It’s important to date your spouse, they say, but it sure doesn’t feel urgent. So, we put off caring for it.

-Do dishes nightly, no excuses, to prevent pile-up. Use the dishwasher, no matter if I trust it to do a proper cleaning or not.

Sounds like a lot to do, right? Maybe, depends on who’s reading this. Oh yeah, one more thing to add: create ME time and spend time and money on myself, care for my skin, eat better, & possibly start working out at home. That sounds like a goal. More like a future goal.

Goals Reached to date, Serenity IS Possible:

1. Lights out by 9pm, YES!

2. Calm morning, no yelling, YES!

3. Peaceful time at home, Woohoo! This is usually during 1 on 1 child and parent bonding time.

Time management is tricky, depending on how you look at it. Some people firmly believe that time is always running away from them and others know it is up to them to create their own timeline. Guess which one will have a chance of improvement?

Once I created some extra time in the day, for example, 2 whole hours opened up after the kids were sleep trained and went to bed by 9pm, yes, it actually worked. But then I came up with other things to occupy that precious slot.

However, when will it be enough? At what point do we tell ourselves to stop, relax, and don’t put anymore on our plate because it’s pretty full and threatens to fall and crack?

Honestly, I am not sure. And come to think of it, most of us do prefer some variety in our lives anyways. Though having said that, I also question that if life at home is chaotic and on edge all the time, how are we to expect anything else in our life to fall in place and feel right?

The only thing that can be done by us is to prioritize what we pay attention to and what we try to fix, what drains our energy that needs to be fixed or taken out of our life, what needs to be added for a sense of fulfillment and how to actually slow down enough and ask ourselves these 3 most important questions: What went well this week? What didn’t go well this week? What can we do to work on and improve it for the future?

And though I predict I’ll still be the only parent showing up at my kid’s school 30 minutes later than everyone else for the next few weeks, or months, at least I’ll be showing up in peace, knowing that we didn’t get this far by force or by yelling and threatening, but by choice, as a team.

 

From Saving Lives To Saving Quality of Lives; Career Transition, Nurse To Coach.

It’s night shift at the hospital’s medical-surgical floor. I’ve given out all of my evening medications and am now making one more round to make sure the patients are tucked in and comfortable before bedtime.

As I make my way to the sweet, not-so-little Italian lady’s room, “Hi Fran! Ready for bed?” I call her name again. No response. Odd…her face has a grayish hue to it and she starts drooling. Great. ..eyes already closed as she is sitting up in her bed. Bad sign; nurse intuition and adrenaline kick in. I grab the nearest phone and call for assistance from the rapid response team, while at the same time gesture to my surrounding co-workers to get help. I run back in the room and … nothing. She’s unresponsive and drooping. No pulse. Mine is racing. Quickly, I jump into fast, strategic action. Lay her flat, raise the bed, place the CPR board under her upper back, jump on the bed next to her (I’m short, no way I could do good compressions from the floor) and 1, 2, 3, 4, 5….30… The rapid response team arrives and takes over. We brought her back to life in under 2 minutes.

I will never forget that first code. To be able to have such power in your hands so as to literally restart someone’s heartbeat is empowering and exhilarating, to say the least.

Fast forward 6 years, to the current day. I’m at my 6th job from the past 10 years. Every 2 years, almost on the dot, I have this odd urge to switch things up, this is terrible for resumes when applying for jobs by the way. Luckily for me, noone noticed the pattern and I got every single job I applied to. I was an interview PRO.

The Obedient Servant.

But back to my original point, I wasn’t where I wanted to be, and I knew it on a subconscious level. I’ve done it all, worked in the icu, with adults, with kids and babies, rehab, post-op, pre-op, post-partum, with newborns, outpatient clinic work, etc. And, I realized, 9 years into my nursing profession, I was bored. And even more than that, I was frustrated, annoyed, and pissed off even! I was an awesome nurse, still am, my coworkers loved me, my patients always asked for me and I was the perfect servant to all the managers and bosses I’ve worked for. That’s when I really flipped the switch.

I was a servant. I had visions, ideas on how to improve the workplace, but my hands were tied. One little me could not make any real changes but just feel helpless. Because while nursing care could be great to patients, the care of nurses themselves was and still is, at best negligible in enough organizations to count. Sure, we get paid well, but the bigger the organization is, the farther away the CEO’s original intent, no matter how noble it may be, is from the “little people.” Can’t help but feel like just a number and money-making machine, but not in the good kind of way. In the way that the more work they give us, no matter how overwhelmed we feel, the more money we make for the hospital and into the pockets of those in charge.

Now, don’t get me wrong, I’m not writing this as a big complaint post about how unfairly nurses are treated. Just wanted to paint the picture for you. Those big CEO’s worked very hard to get where they are. It’s just more than obvious that there is no connection between the two. The hospital culture among staff is twisted, for lack of a better term.

Pity Party for the Little People

What really was bugging me was the lack of the quality connection and emotional support for our patients on the floors, because staffing is not where it needs to be. Sure, Tiffany, life is made of rainbows and unicorns. HA! Fine, not everything could be perfect. That’s fair, I get it. And, that’s why I’m not delusional and think I can change the whole hospital culture all by myself, overnight. This is about my personal journey, which I’m sure many can relate. Especially those working for large organizations, never being shown appreciation or even sincere acknowledgment for their work and existence even. Sure, we get little gifts for nurses week, but lets be honest here, those are pity gifts. Here, little boys and girls, you’ve been so nice this year here’s a candy and a swell umbrella for all your hard work and dedication! Woopy! Right.

So, as I started transitioning into the coaching field, I realized it wasn’t much different than the nursing work I performed, just so much more focused on 1 on 1 care, very personalized and extremely gratifying and with full autonomy. I may have saved that large, Italian lady’s life for 2 days (she unfortunately couldn’t hold on any longer past that) but as I coached more and more people, most of them for free in the beginning, I realized, their lives would never be the same again.

How many of you have had anyone come to you and ask, what are your goals, what are you working on right now, what are your challenges, what would you like your life to be like in the next 5, 10, 20 years from today? Imagine getting that kind of focused attention just on YOU??? Now that’s rare, most of us don’t even get that from our closest friends or family.

The Walking Dead

In many ways, if we don’t follow our intuition and calling in life, our heart slows down, and like the well-rounded, Italian lady’s heart, it flat-lines, as we are still walking. Like living corpses, going from day to day in automatic activity. No ambitions, no plans, no goals to achieve, just like the walking dead..

My point here, really, is that if you’re like I was, stuck in a job or life situation you feel unhappy in, making no progress and really feel like you could make a bigger difference in the world, ask yourself: what’s stopping me? What is that brick wall made of that isn’t letting me move forward and really let me place myself into the role I am meant to fulfill on this earth? What is it? Is it money? Is it location? Is it lack of confidence? Lack of time? And then listen. Listen to what your mind comes up with. I’m serious! Pretend you’re a spectator watching the World Cup, what’s the narrator saying???

Chances are, it’s your scared self. You’re the one standing in the way of your dreams. Not to sound totally preachy here, but this was my big AHA moment: that day I was running ten minutes late for work, almost in a panic that someone will yell at me or “punish me.” I placed myself in this situation and pretended I had no control. Well guess what, it’s time to grow up, put the big girl or boy pants on and take responsibility for the outcomes of our lives. Sure, I temporarily saved some lives, but the changes I can now make with individuals are lasting, because for once I let myself follow my own intuition and natural abilities. And YOU can do the same, I know it.

As Theodore Roosevelt said, “Believe you can, and you’re halfway there.”

Find your passion. Share it with others. Change the world.

Love,

Tiffany Olson.

live-authentic-life

 

 

It’s 10pm – Do You Know Where Your Money Is? How To Avoid The 3 Most Common Budgeting Mistakes

Setting a budget should be the cornerstone to anyone’s personal wealth-building. And yet, surprisingly, only 4 out of every 20 people I meet have one, with half of them not doing it right to begin with. To be perfectly honest, our family’s 1st month of trying to set and follow a budget was quite disorganized, to say the least.

When budgeting is done right it creates clarity and understanding of exactly where your money is going and where it needs to go in the near future. It will provide relief of stressing out whether the next month’s bills will be covered or if your child will have enough for college or if you’ve be able to afford that house you’ve been dreaming of or finally getting a second car so you’re not stuck at home with the kids while your spouse goes to work. Most importantly, it will be the most important tool you use to get what you really want.

Rich people believe “I create my life.” Poor people believe “Life happens to me.” (T. Harv EkerSecrets of the Millionaire Mind: Mastering the Inner Game of Wealth)

Mistake #1: Planning Without Spouse 

When I first started paying attention to money and our weak financial situation I was doing it alone, spending hours every day crunching numbers and looking for the best solution online. Once I asked my husband to be involved, half of the stress of carrying the burden fell off my shoulders.

I created the best predicted list of expenses I could, only to realize that my priorities were a bit different than my husband’s. He wanted to put more money into fantasy sports, which I at the time found to be useless and childish and I wanted to spend more on kids’ clothing and home decor.

Having an open, non-judgmental mind when compromising on your family’s spending is essential, within reason of course. Find a few small things each you and your spouse enjoy spending on and agree on a limit for each. Having a little leeway will prevent that budget from being a negative and dreaded word in your house.

Mistake #2: Not Recording Daily Purchases

Making money tracking a regular habit is key here, no matter how petty or annoying it seems. Not only will this keep your money records accurate but it also helps shape a good money habit which you’ll adapt for life. With a daily practice of looking at how much you are paying for BEFORE you swipe your card at the register, it will eventually become second nature. Within a month or so of implementing this habit you will naturally become more aware of what you’re buying and if it’s really necessary.

Mistake #3: Not Following Through 

What lots of people tend to do, and I was guilty of this as well, is that they write a list of their approximate expenses and then just spend whatever they were spending on before. This leads to disappointment, making the budget seem unrealistic and then causing you to give up.

The Solution: How To Create Your Perfect Budget The Easy Way:

1. Write out approximate monthly expenses, including all the categories you can possibly think of. Discuss this with your spouse and avoid the urge to control their preferences. They have a right to a different opinion.

2. Start tracking your spendings. Every single dollar that goes out or in has to be recorded. This process will take 1 to 3 months to complete and to build an accurate picture of where your money is really going and where the hemorrhaging is happening.

3. After you have a much better idea of your spending (surprise! thought you were spending just $300 on groceries, but now see it’s closer to $800), you can now find the money leaks. Money leaks are those unexpected expenses such as random shopping trips, extravagant gifts, unused subscriptions, overpriced insurance policies, and etc. When I say extravagant gifts, I mean that if you’re buying your spouse a $600 iWatch but only have $300 in your emergency fund, don’t complain that you’re broke and blame it on the holiday season (I say this with love, I promise).

4. Stick to it! Creating the perfect budget will take time, at least 1 to 3 months is just the minimum time. By then you will see how it truly works for you, how being aware of your spending and eventually planning your spending will save you money and find extra money you didn’t realize you were wasting.

5. Have a CONSISTENT tracking/budgeting tool. I personally use the Everydollar app, created by Dave Ramsey’s team. I’ve been using it for over 2 years, it’s easy to understand and you and your spouse can both update it from different phones.

6. Set GOALS. What is the budget for? What purpose will it serve for you? Do you want to buy a house? Pay off debt? Or dying to get a new king size bed with a heavenly mattress after adding some members to your growing family? Want to renovate your 90’s style kitchen?

Having a goal, short term rather than long term to start off with, will be that ultimate motivation source. If you find your motivation fading after a certain point, revisit your original goals, wishes, or things/feeling to avoid. This is VERY important. No motivation=no progress.

Budget’s Real Purpose:

Having set up a proper budgeting plan for yourself or your family is just a small part in achieving financial freedom and building wealth. However, it is the most foundational. Without it, you can be making more money but may be spending it all simultaneously, where the phrase “More money more problems” comes from. It’s simply NOT true. YOU make your money, YOU choose to either waste it or manage and grow it.

Live your life on purpose, with a HIGHER purpose.

 

-Tiffany Olson

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